Thank you Carolyn, this is so good and inspiring. I too believe that embodied love is in process of transforming humanity. Your article moves past any trite cliches about love and packs tomes of concise and *practical* wisdom regarding what embodied love actually looks like.
There is one part that raises a practical question for me, about love sometimes looking like not affirming someone’s limited beliefs. I agree, but it has occurred to me that my labelling another’s thought as limiting is a personal judgement I make, based on how I perceive their world *could* be were they to release the limiting belief.
Isn’t that a kind of imposition of my will? I think it is, but also that it might be a necessary shining of light? So where do we draw the line of non-interference?
Thank you! I appreciate it. :) That's an interesting point. I think of limiting beliefs essentially as anything that would contradict our limitlessness and/or wholeness. Things like "that's not possible for me," "I don't deserve it," or "I need a partner to be happy." The specific example I had in mind while writing was a friend who bought into a kind of cultish belief system that didn't honor her full standing as source. I watched her get more fixated on it and actually get really ill. I didn't want to just nod along as a form of implicit encouragement or violate my own integrity so I said something. Like I am here to support you but I don't support the idea of XYZ for what it says about you. Can't say that went over all that well. That's part of the trial and error. Some people are not open to anything that contradicts what they see as their truth. To be fair, it is just my perspective. Precisely to your point, she doesn't see it as limiting. And it is obviously serving her in some way even if that is through hard times.
So long way of saying, I think we just need to feel it out. Maybe try different approaches. Always come from a place of love and not trying to be right or making the other person wrong. As a coach, people pay me to reflect such things back to them. Outside of that particular relationship, I have generally stopped offering my thoughts unless there is an invitation and opening to do so. Because unless people are in a place to receive it, it usually isn't welcome, isn't viewed as loving, and doesn't change anything inside of them.
What a fantastic reply, thank you for putting my question into a concrete example. It is so helpful, as I’m in a very similar situation, which I’m still in process of navigating. What you’re describing feels like powerful embodied love. 🙏
Thank you Carolyn, this is so good and inspiring. I too believe that embodied love is in process of transforming humanity. Your article moves past any trite cliches about love and packs tomes of concise and *practical* wisdom regarding what embodied love actually looks like.
There is one part that raises a practical question for me, about love sometimes looking like not affirming someone’s limited beliefs. I agree, but it has occurred to me that my labelling another’s thought as limiting is a personal judgement I make, based on how I perceive their world *could* be were they to release the limiting belief.
Isn’t that a kind of imposition of my will? I think it is, but also that it might be a necessary shining of light? So where do we draw the line of non-interference?
Thank you! I appreciate it. :) That's an interesting point. I think of limiting beliefs essentially as anything that would contradict our limitlessness and/or wholeness. Things like "that's not possible for me," "I don't deserve it," or "I need a partner to be happy." The specific example I had in mind while writing was a friend who bought into a kind of cultish belief system that didn't honor her full standing as source. I watched her get more fixated on it and actually get really ill. I didn't want to just nod along as a form of implicit encouragement or violate my own integrity so I said something. Like I am here to support you but I don't support the idea of XYZ for what it says about you. Can't say that went over all that well. That's part of the trial and error. Some people are not open to anything that contradicts what they see as their truth. To be fair, it is just my perspective. Precisely to your point, she doesn't see it as limiting. And it is obviously serving her in some way even if that is through hard times.
So long way of saying, I think we just need to feel it out. Maybe try different approaches. Always come from a place of love and not trying to be right or making the other person wrong. As a coach, people pay me to reflect such things back to them. Outside of that particular relationship, I have generally stopped offering my thoughts unless there is an invitation and opening to do so. Because unless people are in a place to receive it, it usually isn't welcome, isn't viewed as loving, and doesn't change anything inside of them.
Thanks for sharing!
What a fantastic reply, thank you for putting my question into a concrete example. It is so helpful, as I’m in a very similar situation, which I’m still in process of navigating. What you’re describing feels like powerful embodied love. 🙏
Haha great freakin article!!!!!